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guilt shame empowerment after affair05-03-23 Guilt, Shame & Empowerment After Your Partner’s Affair

Why do I feel guilty, like I somehow caused my partner’s affair? This question is one of the most perplexing aspects of betrayal recovery. While the answer is NO, you did not cause your partner’s affair, EVER, it’s also appropriate to be able to self-reflect on the relationship, realize what you know now that you didn’t know then, see where you can do better going forward, and take steps to get healthy and clean up your side of the street. So that going forward, you are clear, strong, empowered, and confident enough to manage any situation with grace.

Top take-a-ways:

  • The rush of clarity and empowerment that comes from owning your so-called mistakes, and choosing to heal and grow so you can live differently and make healthier choices going forward.
  • A guided practice to release yourself from any guilt that you may feel for things you did that contributed to the break-down of the relationship.
  • Why your partner is minimizing the affair, refusing to take responsibility for his actions, and is blaming you for his choices.

About Lora:

Author, speaker and Burnout & Betrayal Recovery Coach, Lora Cheadle help women rebuild their identity and self-worth so they can find the courage to claim what’s possible on the other side of betrayal.

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