06-26-24 Am I Being Patient or a Pushover?
Have you ever wondered if you were being patient or a pushover who was settling for less than deserved? If you have, you are not alone! In today’s episode, we’ll delve into the importance of setting clear and specific boundaries within your relationship, protecting yourself while creating realistic and measurable healing goals, and will discuss the essential steps for both partners to take charge of their healing journey through therapy, coaching, or self-directed resources.
Top Take-a-Ways:
- Healing is a Fluid and Flexible Process: How to create a healing plan that doesn’t follow a linear path and adapts and grows with you.
- Embracing Patience and Compassion without being a pushover: Discover the profound difference between being patient and being a pushover who settles for less. Learn tools to embrace both patience and create accountability, so you and your partner have the grace to grow.
- Empowered Decisions: What they are and how to know you are making them.
BONUS! Here are ten Journal Prompts and questions based on the topics discussed in this episode:
- **Boundary Setting**: How do you interpret the importance of setting specific boundaries in a relationship after infidelity? Can you share examples of boundaries that might be helpful?
- **Realistic Healing Goals**: What are some realistic healing goals you can set for yourself after experiencing betrayal? How do you ensure they are specific, measurable, achievable, realistic, and time-sensitive (SMART)?
- **Communication Strategies**: In what ways can clear communication facilitate the healing process for both partners in a relationship affected by infidelity?
- **Healing Plans**: Lora Cheadle suggests having concrete healing plans for both partners as well as the couple. What steps would you include in such a plan for individual and mutual healing?
- **Compassion in Healing**: How can having compassion for each other’s mistakes and normalizing errors contribute to rebuilding trust and connection in a relationship?
- **Empowered Decision-Making**: Why is it important to prioritize your own well-being when making decisions in a relationship affected by betrayal, and how can one avoid seeking external validation?
- **Laughter and Joy**: How can incorporating fun and laughter into your relationship aid in the healing process after experiencing infidelity?
- **Self-Compassion**: What are some methods you can use to practice self-compassion and send love to your past self as suggested by Lora Cheadle?
- **Patience vs. Settling**: How do you differentiate between being patient with a partner undergoing personal growth and settling for less than you deserve in a relationship?
- **Future Self Guidance**: How might seeking wisdom from your future self influence your healing journey and decision-making process in a relationship affected by betrayal?
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About Lora:
Attorney, speaker and Burnout & Betrayal Recovery Coach, Lora Cheadle believes that betrayal uncovers the truth of what’s possible when we stop focusing on what was done to us and start showing up unapologetically for ourselves. She helps women rebuild their identity and self-worth after infidelity so they can reclaim (or find for the very first time) their confidence, clarity, and connection to source and create their own kind of happily ever after.
Get the support you need to find your footing, begin making sense of it all, and feel better fast. As an attorney, betrayal recovery expert, and survivor of infidelity I can help you find the clarity and confidence to create a life that you love on the other side of betrayal. Book Your Session Here: https://calendly.com/loras-schedule/coaching-session
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