04-10-24 How to Create Lasting Change In Yourself & Your Relationship
How many times have you read books, taken classes, and taken steps to change yourself or your relationship, but couldn’t quite get that change to last? Using the transtheoretical model of change, here is what you need to know in order to make the changes you desire in yourself and your relationship.
Roadmap for Successful & Lasting Change:
- Identify where you are at on the transformation journey:
o Pre-Contemplation: D-day just happened and you are struggling to come to terms with what happened. (A good time to see a qualified therapist!)
o Contemplation: You’ve accepted the reality of your situation and you are starting to explore your options and learn what might be available to you. (A good time to read, listen to podcasts, and use on-line or group coaching programs.)
o Preparation: This is where you learn (and practice!) the tools, skills, and habits necessary for you to be successful and manage setbacks. (A good time for one-on-one coaching so you can be sure you are cultivating the skills necessary to soar!)
o Action: The time to take action begins only after you’ve learned how to support the changes you desire. (Accountability and support are critical here!)
- 90 Days to create a habit: Go slow! Be patient, have grace, and expect failure along the way.
- Change one or two things at a time: Clearly identify what you want to change so you can know if you are succeeding or not. Don’t overwhelm yourself with too much.
- Work on both “sides”: Change takes place on both “sides” of the coin. The logical side and the emotional side, the conscious side and the unconscious side, etc. Work to change both your actions and your thoughts.
- Use journaling, meditation, & somatic movement to lock in change: These modalities are the backbone of tools necessary for successful change and to finally BECOME all that you want to be!
o Maintenance: In this phase, you refine what you want and practice living your best life!
o Termination: You and your relationship have become who you wanted them to be!
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- LIVE! Monday April 8 – Intention Setting & Guided Hypnosis
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- On Demand! Wednesday April 10 – Meditation, Frequency & Becoming Who You Are.
- On Demand! Thursday April 11 – Somatic Movement to Process Pain & Reclaim Your Sexy.
- LIVE! Friday April 12 – The Creation & Elimination of Habits, Thoughts, and Behaviors. Join for FREE at www.SparkleAllSeason.com
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Attorney, speaker and Burnout & Betrayal Recovery Coach, Lora Cheadle believes that betrayal uncovers the truth of what’s possible when we stop focusing on what was done to us and start showing up unapologetically for ourselves. She helps women rebuild their identity and self-worth after infidelity so they can reclaim (or find for the very first time) their confidence, clarity, and connection to source and create their own kind of happily ever after.
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