12-31-25 Longing After Betrayal: Grieving the Future You Thought You’d Have
There’s a very specific ache that shows up after betrayal—especially during the holidays. It’s not just missing a person. It’s grieving the future you thought you were building…and the version of you who once believed in it. In this episode, we talk about longing—not as a problem to fix, but as a signal of healing, a doorway back to self-trust, and a gentle bridge into what’s next.
Longing after betrayal can feel confusing and even scary—because wanting, hoping, and believing once led to pain. But longing isn’t weakness, and it doesn’t mean you’re stuck or that you “made a mistake.” In this episode, Lora Cheadle explores why the holidays amplify longing (hello, Hallmark movies), why longing is often grief and love intertwined, and how longing can become a powerful compass back to self-trust. You’ll learn how to honor the future you lost without rushing into a new one, and you’ll be guided through a presencing practice and intentional silence to help regulate your nervous system and listen inward. Plus, Lora invites you into her $26 Vision Board Workshop on January 10—a gentle, guided container to help you reconnect with what still matters and shape what comes next without pressure.
Top 3 Takeaways
- Longing doesn’t mean you want your old life back—it means something meaningful mattered. You’re not “doing it wrong” if you ache; you’re human, and you’re grieving a future you imagined.
- After betrayal, many women don’t stop trusting others—they stop trusting themselves to want again. Avoiding longing isn’t failure; it’s protection that hasn’t been updated yet.
- Longing can become a compass when you stop trying to resolve it. Instead of asking “What do I want next?” try asking, “What does my longing still care about?”—and let that guide you gently forward.
Favorite Quote
“Longing isn’t asking you to go backwards—it’s asking you to acknowledge how far you’ve come.”
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About Lora:
Lora Cheadle, JD, CHt is a former attorney turned betrayal recovery coach, hypnotherapist, and author who helps women rebuild their identity and reclaim their power after infidelity and profound emotional betrayal. Using her signature Life Choreography® approach, she integrates legal insight, nervous system regulation, somatic practices, and deep spiritual support to help clients move from shattered to sovereign.
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